There’s a productivity myth that most of us have been running on for years. It goes something like this: the more you commit to, the more you’ll get done. Fill the list, fill the day, push through, and eventually it all adds up.
Except it doesn’t. Not really. Not in a sustainable way. And if you’re honest, you probably already know that.
What actually happens when you over-commit is subtler and more damaging than just a missed to-do. Every time you make a promise you can’t keep, whether to someone else or quietly to yourself, something small breaks down. Not in a dramatic way. But over time, you stop fully believing your own plans. You start building schedules you’re already skeptical of. You set intentions with a silent “maybe” attached to them. And the whole system starts to feel pointless.
The fix isn’t more discipline. It’s smaller promises.
The Problem With a Full List
Most women in accounting are not struggling with productivity because they’re lazy or unfocused. They’re struggling because the standard they’ve set for themselves is simply unworkable.
Think about a typical morning. You’ve got 10 things on the list. You know, somewhere in the back of your mind, that five of them were never going to happen today. But you write them all down anyway, because it feels responsible. It feels like you’re taking it seriously.
What it actually does is set you up to fail before the day even starts.
And here’s the part that compounds the problem: every item that doesn’t get done doesn’t just disappear. It carries over. It shows up the next day with a little extra weight on it. And so does the feeling that you’re behind, that you’re not doing enough, that you’re somehow falling short even when you’re working hard.
The list isn’t motivating you. It’s quietly eroding your trust in yourself.
What a Smaller Promise Actually Looks Like
Scaling back your commitments doesn’t mean lowering your standards. It means being honest about what your day can actually hold.
Instead of listing everything that needs to get done eventually, ask a different question: what are the two or three things that genuinely need to happen today? Not someday, not ideally, but today, given the hours and energy you actually have.
Then stop there.
This is harder than it sounds, because it requires you to make real decisions. You have to look at your list and acknowledge that some things, even important ones, aren’t happening today. That feels uncomfortable. But that discomfort is the point. You’re making the trade-off consciously, instead of pretending everything fits and then feeling like you failed when it doesn’t.
A smaller promise is a real promise. And a real promise is one you can actually keep.
The Workout Clothes Problem
Nicole illustrates this perfectly with a simple example. You have 10 minutes in the morning. You tell yourself you’re going to work out. It sounds doable. But when you account for changing into workout clothes, actually doing the workout, showering, and getting ready, 10 minutes was never going to cover it. You knew that when you said it. And sure enough, it doesn’t happen.
That’s not a willpower failure. It’s a planning failure. The commitment didn’t account for reality.
This happens in accounting practices all the time. A task gets scheduled into a 30-minute block that was always going to take two hours. A client call gets squeezed into a window that doesn’t leave room for prep or follow-up. A deadline gets set based on the best-case version of the week, not the actual one.
The solution isn’t to become a better hustler. It’s to become a more honest planner.
When you’re building your day, think through the full picture of what a commitment actually requires. Not just the task itself, but the steps around it. The transition time. The energy it takes. The realistic version of your day, not the aspirational one. Then decide what actually belongs on today’s list.
Keeping the Word You Give
Here’s what starts to shift when you do this consistently. You begin to trust yourself again.
It sounds small, but it isn’t. When you say you’re going to do something and then you actually do it, even if it’s just two things, even if no one else would ever know whether you followed through or not, you’re building something. You’re proving to yourself, quietly and repeatedly, that your word means something. That when you make a plan, it’s real.
That trust compounds over time in the same way that broken promises do, just in the opposite direction. Instead of approaching each day with a low-level skepticism about whether you’ll follow through, you start approaching it with confidence. Your systems start to feel reliable. Your schedule starts to feel workable. The overwhelm starts to ease, not because you’re doing more, but because what you’re doing is actually landing.
And that’s the reframe that matters most. The goal was never the longest list. The goal was a life that works. Smaller promises, consistently kept, are how you build one.
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